I had a fascinating conversation with a colleague yesterday in the bus, where we talked amongst others, about schoolsport. His children are in it deep and mine are only starting. He is also experienced in family ministry and an expert in education, so, we reflected on the obsession of us as parents and schools to make our children winners. We, as parents often pay the price (literally as well!), our lifestyle and forms of practicing our faith change and we are left wondering: when is enough enough or, when is winning not enough..
One of the things he said was that there comes a time, when winning is not the best outcome. Indeed, winning will not allways be the outcome, because the system is geared to valorise winning with a step-up'to the next level'. On this level, we often start at the bottom again. But also, there are situations where winning, at all costs, might be going against what your reasons for participation was in the first place.
Another very important consideration then, is the question why we are participating and why do we, as parents, allow our children to participate or, in some cases, expect them to participate and win.
What does it mean when Paul speaks of 'glorifying or thanking' God (Col3:17), in everything we do and participate in? Does it mean to be the best, to be on top and succesful or is there a place for the embarassing cross, and if so, where.
Often, young people struggle with their own losses, their own vulnerabilities and fears. Often they struggle to live up to the expectations of parents, teachers, and a winning, smurking God, who parades with the trophies. Does it help when the God we present to them, is a Superman-God, who expects his children also to be super-human?
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